Friday, December 15, 2006

內向与外向 / Introvert & Extrovert

在北美社会工作,在升職方面, 似乎外向的人,是比內向的同僚,処於較優的位置。其實我基本是內向的人,我喜愛夜靜,喜欢一個人凌晨跑步,冬夜白雪紛飛之際,在山林月光之下滑雪。但為了工作所需,費了不少功夫,把自己內向的性格,加工提煉,改變為「外向」。現在可以隨時上臺,主持会議,硏討政策,或向数百來賓致詞,或与素不相識的陌生人寒喧。但在我心底裡,脫了那工作外衣,我仍是那個喜欢夜靜,喜欢在那水銀瀉地的月光之下,跑步或滑雪的旅途者。

12 comments:

Elaine said...
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San Wen Ji said...

我跟你有點相像。

lu said...

good on you! it's a real improvement that you can go up on stage to speak. i still get stage fright sometimes, but can make conversations with strangers more easily now.

anyhow, being an extrovert at work doesn't mean that you really are one. :)

古思哲 said...

我都是內向的,亦知道有時還真的要改改。不過本性難移……

xiao said...
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xiao said...

"being an extrovert at work doesn't mean that you really are one."

我都是一個極害羞的人,喜歡甚至刻意低調,但是我亦可以做公開演說、在舞台上演戲、唱歌,都應付裕如。性格跟能力可以是不掛鉤的,更何況人確實是一種複雜、多面性的動物,而且往往潛藏的能力更事不能估量的。

xiao zhu

vicky said...

看你的文章就覺得你溫文內向了, 其實我也是內向的, 只是平時講嘢聲大大, 遇到啱傾的人就很熱情,所以一般人以為我外向.

xiao zhu said...

我係又怕醜、但係又貪玩個隻。特別係以前,我個樣真係成日都呃到人架(唔係我要呃人,係D人以為我係D好好動。)不過近年真係太多事發生,俾人玩到謝哂,所以就成日收埋自己,變得有D自閉添。唉,但係D人仲係覺得我好硬淨、好tough。真係有苦自己知!

微豆 said...

San Wen Ji: 同是旅途人 :)

Lu : Regarding stage-flight, practice makes perfect, I am sure you will overcome it over time !! The challenge is to seamlessly integrate the intrinsic and the acquired characteristics. We must be comfortable with ourselves in the end.

古思哲 : 是呀,江山易改,但沒法子,改是為了適应環境的需要,但可不要改到連自己也不認識自己。

xiao : 您說得对,人不是單細胞,而是多面性和複雜的動物。至於掛鉤這方面,我有兩種看法: 在工作環境裡,如果能夠將性格、能力、潛能三樣都能聯繫銜接,那就最好了,正是:一環軟弱,全鏈不強。但在工作以外,生活是多面化、多枝多彩的,掛不掛鉤就不是問題了。我很喜欢您所說:「潛藏的能力更事不能估量的」。

vicky : 文章或許就是內向外的表示,就像音樂唱歌一樣,唱、彈、或寫出一個感情來!!! 酒逢知己,和有共鳴「啱傾」的人在一起,真是可以談過通宵。您說的熱情,是由心裡發出來的,聽來很有您的自然感 :)

微豆 said...

xiao zhu :「自閉」是過度性的答案,讓自己有空歇一口氣是好的,但長久成了習慣就不妙。我也和您有同感,人与人之間,知心人少,可遇而不可求,但出面「玩家」人就多,大家鬥玩,如您說会「俾人玩到謝哂」。或許,試交另一個全新圈子的朋友,那麽就可以開始一個新的自己,新的一頁。

Eden said...

Seemed pretty well balanced to me =) ... as long as you didn't lose yourself! It's inevitable, especially at work, to 'change' to adapt to situations and environment. I think you are doing well! =D

微豆 said...

Eden: As the saying goes, I am fairly comfortable under my skin :)

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