Tuesday, May 17, 2011

小家種男人? / Is he a cheap skate?


Photo Credit: Taken by Lotusandcedar May 14, 2011 inside a shop on Wellington Street, Ottawa
上图: 五光十色,令女仕目不暇接的燦爛手飾!!
下图: 一個坐在女性購物部,不知如何是好的男仕。

各位男仕,如果你和女友或妻子逛街漫步,她在商店手飾部留連忘返良久,左顧右盼,之後選擇了一件適合她心水的,轉頭对您說:『我打扮是為討你開心!!』您会有怎樣的反应?

1. 大方回答說: 『妳真有我心,讓我替妳買下罷!』您同意: 女為悦己者容嘛!!!
2. 小家種地說: 『妳真有我心,為我費這么多錢!』但心想: 妳自己賺錢買花带囉!!!
3. 不願鼓勵她,又不想逆她意,莫不經意地說: 『這么多選擇,令人眼花撩亂,我真不知那件好、那件不好。』跟著提議: 『倒不如我們用這筆錢去渡假。』
4. 明知要做「水魚」,於是破財擋災,打蛇隨棍上說:『妳買完手飾之後,我会去Victoria Secret送妳一件來襯。』可正是: 光棍遇着無皮柴:O 

哈哈!! 我個人当然覺得做人是大方的好,大家開心見誠,不要斤斤計較,感情就會自然發展。不信的話,請看以下 kittyhk78 的經驗,小家種的男人有時真是可以做到很絕、很過份的!

"..... 係年頭透過交友網認識左一位4張既男士, 佢同媽咪相依為命, 開頭大家係信息度留下言, 傾傾下先去到電話咁, 前後2個月度啦! 大家一路未見過, 直到傾左半個月電話, 大家就出黎見面, 一見到都無咩特別, 只是無期望, 所以亦都無失望, 佢個子高但不俊, 之後大家都有feel, 出黎第3次就拍拖了, 開頭都好地地, 但係發覺佢真係小家到無人有, 連我d男性朋友都覺得佢影衰晒男人咁話.

例1~事原係咁, 佢時時提要大家付出, 講真~做女人亦唔需要餐餐佢比晒, 女既出豉油男既出雞咁啦, 已經唔港女! 佢想要做到6 4咁, 我都算, 有次食完餐飯, 之後搵公園坐傾計咁, 好自然搵7仔買野飲, 佢真係核突到將我個手袋隊落去八達通個位度, 我好識做自己拎銀包出黎仲大方, 佢既動機要我比錢我都ok, 無出聲.

例2~送我搭的士返屋企側側膀差唔多去到都坐係度, 當然我又自然比錢.

例3~我揸車出街同佢周圍去, 新界九龍咁, lunch去到food court叫我出去買野食, 全程我比晒, 到最後送佢返屋企, 佢同我食魚旦河囉!

例4~我住九龍,佢住香港, 有次諗緊去邊, 我話九龍啦! 佢竟然話, 我過黎九龍車錢來回都成20蚊, 飲野好過, 我個下真係 o嘴, 心想唔通我過黎唔駛車錢嗎? 唉~

例5~去半日踩單車, 夜晚打golf , 係個早餐錢咁大把佢出, 之後租單車, 買野飲, 之後打golf通通我比, 我完全無計唔出聲.

例6~我生日去深圳2日1夜全程我安排, 酒店住宿都係我訂既, 唔好諗住同我慶祝我唔駛出喎, 頭一日既駛費同埋酒店錢佢比, 另一日全程我比咁就叫慶祝, 當然唔駛諗生日禮物呢樣野. 係佢角度講心就ok, 物質呢d無謂野無必要就唔會買.

例7~行街見到想食既糖都係30蚊一包, 佢幫我係我個手袋度拎銀包出黎, 真係唔該晒, 我自己比錢, 之後同佢講點解包糖唔係你買既~佢就答, 我點解要買, 你食咪你買囉! @@ 難道知道女朋友喜歡食既糖都無必要去買嗎? 心淡

例8~有次同佢食"板長", 我都好就住叫野, 2個人都係食左2xx蚊, 咁好啦~無野, 半個月後無拉拉講返食壽司無乜點食都2xx蚊, 我心想~屎都痾埋啦! 仲講既. 之後佢帶我去"明將"食, 話你睇呢度平成半呀, 真係想死, 我依然啞忍, 佢就帶出話媽咪覺得百幾蚊2個人好貴喎, 可以食好多餐, 個下我真係火都黎, 我一開口就話叫佢媽咪去xx博物館, d思想幾千萬, 帶多d你媽咪出街啦! 家下就算係屋企煮都唔平啦!

例9~我想起一齊玩puzzle, 問佢好嗎? 佢好快答: 你買呀? 講真~用意我諗大家都知道想開心下一齊玩咁, 但係佢只會覺得呢d係多餘野無必要囉!

例10~我地行左2個月佢好趕時間就同我去婚前檢查, 之前問佢如果我有事唔能夠生bb咁點, 佢答如果愛對方知道對方要乜又達唔到要求咪自己離場, 我就話倒轉呢, 佢好識講, 個主動權係我度, 佢係被動, 通常女人都算, 真係太自私, 從未預過, 咁好啦~我地依時去body checking, 其實收費係每人550蚊, 佢開頭比晒, 我明知佢係咩人, 咪係完左body checking食飯比返佢, 當時我無零錢咪比600蚊佢, 點知二話不說即收仲要唔找囉, 之後我話你唔找既? 佢答呢餐當你請都得掛, 大家都會覺得請還請囉! 咁都有, 仲覺得自己岩晒, 係佢角度覺得行到呢個地步仲要找錢咁喎! 嬲死我, 因為咁呢個導火線就分手.

其實係開頭拍拖仲講明婚後要男6女4付出, 公平喎! 我講話男7女3咁啦! 佢就答到時先算, 真係唔知以為講數 ~.~ 到宜家佢同第d新識既女人都話我斤斤計較導致分手原因, 完全唔覺得自己有問題, 仲係岩晒添. 佢曾經講話入佢門唔係咁易, 真係唔知以為係豪門添. 呢個人太急要家庭要bb但係連拍拖都咁對人, 婚後點會有幸福呢~ ....."

資料來源: 【經典小家種男人, 唔知大家預過未?】發表於 2010-8-3
http://www.discuss.com.hk/viewthread.php?tid=12778607&page=1&authorid=3959452

很明顯,kittyhk78 的前任男友就屬於這边加拿大形容為 cheap skate 那一類人,孤寒財主,事事斤斤計較,嘩!連女方「婚前檢查費」找錢$150都要袋入自己荷包。他視愛情如商業買賣,視女人為生育機器。老實說,我就不會相信他的「男6女4」婚姻方程式,這位數仙士的守財奴只会永遠帶上「利、害」的有色眼鏡來衡量男女之間的關係!!

8 comments:

新鮮人 said...

我們只看到單方面的說法,
不過有點肯定的是:
兩個人都係根根計較的,
大家都"一把年紀"又急於結婚,
但咁大個人又已經變得實際和難相處了,
大家亙相針著對方、計較對方、"憎恨"對方....
他們兩人都是可憐人,
很難找到真愛!

啤酒花™_J said...

宁愿一个人咯。。。

Haricot 微豆 said...

新鮮人:

我也同意,看到的只是單方面。

隨著年紀長大,男娶女嫁可能是「先友後婚」而不是「先愛後婚」,是尋找拍檔partner而不是去夢覓情人 lover。

至於可不可憐那就見仁見智了。

Haricot 微豆 said...

啤酒花™_J:

一人安靜 vs 兩人鬧過鳮犬不宁!

Anonymous said...

哈哈哈哈!一句講嗮:『兩個都犯賤!』




Space

Anonymous said...

My aunt recently passed away. We try to encourage our 79 year old uncle to start dating again. He said," the game is not worth the gain!". After a certain age, it's all about "what have you done for me lately?"



exile

Haricot 微豆 said...

Space:

Oh well ... I wouldn't be that judgmental.

Actually both sounds a bit desperate. But the woman is smart enough to know what spells trouble.

Haricot 微豆 said...

Exile:

>> .... the game is not worth the gain!

Even for ppl much younger than 79, starting a new relationship is like getting on a possibly emotional roller-coaster ride.

>> .... After a certain age, it's all about "what have you done for me lately?"

I cannot speak for your uncle. Sure there are ppl who think only abt themselves. But based on my experience with my Mom and her friends, coping with just everyday life can be a challenge both physically and mentally. So I would suggest that for some ppl, it is more likely because of:
(a) priority change after a certain age;
(b) unwillingness to venture into (yet again) unknown emotional territory; and,
(c) unwillingness to change a life style that is already so set in many ways.

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